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I don't know what's typical of the transgender community, but my realization that I am a MTF transsexual was a long time coming.
One reason was that I didn't see myself the way many transsexuals see themselves — as women trapped in the wrong bodies.
My history was always one of being told my feelings, judgments and sensibilities were wrong, so when I had feminine feelings and desires, I just assumed it was because there was something wrong with me emotionally or psychologically. In other words, I assumed I had the right body but the wrong spirit. To me that just seems like the flip side of feeling like a woman trapped in a man's body. Though I tried to live like a man, I can't say how many nights I prayed to wake up a girl so that all the "wrong" feelings I had would then be right.
It took 51 years of suppressing my spirit more or less successfully, 51 years of emotional self mutilation to cut out the "wrong" feelings, before my carefully constructed masculine identity fell apart.
Not until I became literally unable to function any longer in the socially acceptable role for people with masculine bodies, was I finally forced to face my feminine spirit. When all else had failed, Heather remained.
For all those years she had been the guardian of all the feelings I'd tried to bury. When the dam broke it was Heather riding the crest of the flood. It was Heather who comforted me and Heather who has led me on the path of self-acceptance and healing to this point in time, when I can say, and happily, "I am Heather."
I'm 54 now and I know I'll never be the sultry sex kitten I'd like to be, but I will do my best to be the best looking older woman I can be.
I'm looking forward to hormone therapy and perhaps even SRS. I'd like to know if anyone has information about others who have transitioned in their mid-fifties or older.
Also, I just like hearing from others in the transgendered community, so if you feel like it, drop me an email.
Heather
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